Having thought I wasn’t good enough, and harbouring guilty feelings about it, I doubled down on learning.

I put my head down and studied.

“I’ll never actually TEACH anyone,” I said to myself, but I do want to know more …

So last week I was talking about the deflation you can feel when you have this fantastic, brilliant, world-changing, idea … and you don’t know how to even start.

Check out the important first and second steps from last week, and jump into your third step here!

You aren’t stuck! You need to know - and recognise! - that you have choices in life and it’s up to you to take them, so that you can do whatever you want to do, and map out your future with courage and faith.

We all have habits.

Most of what we do every day is habit-driven. It makes sense! If you had to stop and make decisions about everything all day long you’d be exhausted by lunchtime!

I am eternally curious. Think of the 4 year old child who drives everyone mad with endless WHYs. whywhywhy, but Mummy WHY? And somehow I never grew out of that! Whywhywhy is a constant cry of mine.

So after last week’s look at decision-making, let’s look at how to make better decisions!

They do say that we make from 40 to 60 THOUSAND decisions a day! From the moment we open our eyes in the morning we are making decisions.

Nothing ever stands still and - as the saying goes nature abhors a vacuum. So if a gap in the market appears the canny folk have been quick to jump in.

Like all the companies who made hay when the pandemic hit, like online conferencing and the like - an essential and much-needed service!

We believe we are limited by the world around us.

We believe that we have been short-changed!

Everyone else seems to have what they need - and we don’t! And you know what? If that’s what you believe, that’s just how you’ll stay.

Have you got role models?

By that I mean people whose success and achievements you admire and want to mimic?

This is great! BUT the key is that you’re following the RIGHT people for the RIGHT reasons!

Practice makes Perfect

BUT in fact that’s a nonsense!

If you’re practising the wrong thing, it will be “Practice makes Imperfect”.

If you’re practising badly, it’ll be “Practice makes Worse”.

It’s all to do with what you’re actually DOING, rather than how much you do it!

Doors are clanging and clattering open all the time.

But so often we miss them, because we’re not expecting them, or we’re looking at the wrong door!

Whyever not? BECAUSE!

Because they don’t work. Because they’re just wishes, not based in any reality. They’re an empty hope, waiting for the Wish Fairy to wave her magic wand.

I’d like you to look at life a little differently.

Life is not a game to be won or lost!

It just is.

All you have to do is live it.

Life is truly a marvel, and you will miss out on so much if you spend your time trying to control what happens.

We are reared as nice, polite, little girls and boys.

We are taught to ASK before doing things.

“Don’t just dive in!” we’re told. “Ask nicely and wait your turn …”

And that’s all good and well for bringing children up to be well-mannered, and not grabby hooligans!

This is another of those WRONG questions! Of course you have worth, and that worth will vary for whoever you’re dealing with.

Ask a better question and you’ll get a better answer!

The important thing is to remember your own value as an individual

Can you wait? Can you wait indefinitely? Can you keep on waiting …?

So - what are you waiting for?

Are you waiting for things to suddenly turn around and trundle forward just as you want them to?

Isn’t that what we all yearn for? To be able to do what we love, all day long?

I guess it’s the reason so many people look forward to retirement - so they can leave the hateful or boring day job and enjoy endless gardening, or travelling, or reading, or …

Asking questions is an art! Ask the wrong question and you are guaranteed to get the wrong answer?

To get the answer you want, you must ask better questions!

But what question should you ask?